R.I.P. Andrew AKA Anduen

[xarachne]

It's been a long time. Some of you I still talk to every now and again. And I wish I were coming here with better news.

Many of you knew Andrew as Anduen a Holy Pally who was funny and had an uncanny love of a magical eight ball.

Even after I left playing WoW I kept in touch with him because we had formed a wonderful friendship. I attempted to call him last night and his mother answered the phone. I already knew before she said anything what had happened. She confirmed it by letting me know he took his own life. I had feared this day for a long time...

Andrew was a great person with a wonderful sense of humor. He was a kind soul, but a very troubled one. Over the years I tried to help him as he struggled with horrible depression and his thoughts of suicide. I urged him to try to get help but he just didn't have anything to live for anymore. It became very hard to deal with and I sought out help to try to help him. A counselor convinced me of giving him an ultimatum of him having to get help for himself or we couldn't be friends anymore. I gave this to him in late December. I am now feeling pretty regretful of this choice. I know I shouldn't blame myself. Even if I had been around the last two months, I think he still would of taken his life. I wish this game were real in times like this, so I could just target him and throw him a res.

I just thought some of you who knew him would want to know what happened. He really did love this game when he played. There is also an online guestbook that you could sign if you want with his obituary. Or you could share some of your thoughts or memories of him on this post. I just hope wherever he is now he is at peace. He will be greatly missed.

http://obits.nj.com/obituaries/trenton/obituary.aspx?n=andrew-g-phillips&pid=140040806

Hope all of you are doing well.

Love,
Jessica
aka Xarachne

[Siafu]

I can't believe it..... He was always so upbeat in game.. He will be missed dearly.

[Daikirai]

I'm sorry to hear about this. Rest in peace Anduen.

[Teckbot]

RIP, Anduen.

The Great 8 Ball in the Sky watches over you.

[Lilume]

I'd been trying to confirm this for the past week. Thank you.

It sucks that we'll never see one of the coolest people log in again. I think anyone that knew him will miss him.

[xarachne]

his brother set up a memorial facebook page for any of you that wish to join here is a link

http://www.facebook.com/group.php?v=wall&ref=search&gid=355672515379

[Lunk]

This is sad news indeed. Thanks for letting us know Jess.

8-ball is Anduen in a better place? It is decidedly so.

[Fip]

I can't believe that he's gone. Taking one's life is usually a shock to everyone. My sincerest condolences go out to his family, and I'm sure that your friendship was a great comfort to him throughout all of his pain Jessica. Don't beat yourself up over it, and take solace in the joy you brought him.

[Xahlia]

Ummm... i'm lost for words. I just got to work and haven't logged on to this site or the game in quite some time now and to login to a message like this saddens me greatly.

I used to spend alot of 1 on 1 time and time with Andy and Jess when i first joined Lunacy. Back in the days when arena first began. And can always remember how we'd alwayz try and get him to help through Magtheridon and SSC cause he was such a good pally.

Andy you will be missed but i'm sure you are in a better place now.

RIP Andy(Anduen)...

Inkarnate.

[xarachne]

I started a project for this summer where we will be sending care packages overseas to troops who generally do not receive mail. it is dedicated to the memory of Andrew. I feel that a lot of our people over there are feeling very forgotten, depressed, and alone like Andrew did and I wanted to reach out to them. It's really helping me with my grief over the loss of Andy. I work for 24 Hour Fitness and I wrote an email to my CEO about ten days ago asking if he would donate some bars and powders to send to our troops and well... I got 40 boxes shipped to me last friday to my door. my grandma was about to have a heart attack as it took over our living room. they sent it to me without warning but it was a pleasant surprise. now we are just trying to raise money for shipping costs if any of you would like to donate. i know times are tough. i set up a paypal account and there are instructions on the site on how to avoid the paypal fees. Also, just passing it along to anyone you think might want to help would be great too. thanks! hope all of you are doing well.

here is a link
http://www.jessicamaddin.com/hope/

xo
jess